The Treasure Trove Within
A wildly misleading trend causing undue stress needs to be stopped. There are countless gurus standing up and telling us to “be like me, do as I say,” as they are “successful, have all the answers,” and so on. The truth is, that what may work for me, may not work for you. We’re not the same people. If everyone was like Dr. Phil, Anthony Robbins, or Oprah, then doing exactly what they say and modeling your way of being in the world after them would make sense. But even those three people are so different, who do you listen to? They’re telling you to do different things.
What’s even worse is how much we beat ourselves up for failing to become successful when we’re trying to model someone else. You can give yourself a break. That game is rigged!
You’ll never out-do someone else at being them. Furthermore, you at your best will be far more successful than any version of someone else you’re told you should be.
Your own style can be very different than any stereotype of a “successful” person, and that difference is exactly what can take you to real success. You have both vices and virtues that make up your world-view, your perspective, and how you function in the world. You can use the tools you have to Optimize your Results, rather than chasing after someone else’s path.
Coaching is a great way to work on self-improvement, but the same traps can be found here as well. You may have issues with accountability, goal-setting, and prioritizing or not. Depending upon your worldview, your issues could be completely different than “standard coaching issues,” which would have you working on what isn’t blocking you.
What will help you is identifying your best virtues and how to concentrate on bringing those to the forefront, while identifying your vices, and how to use them as well. Yes, you can use your vices, when they are lifted from compulsions to conscious choices.
The Real You Behind The Mask
Behind that mask that you put on; the “game face,” protecting yourself from feeling vulnerable, is the you who has real dreams, hopes, fears and aspirations. That is an exciting person worth paying attention to. Try to put aside everything you’ve been told about not being who you need to be. You are exactly who you need to be. The only thing potentially holding you back is not knowing what your resources are, or maybe how to access them yet.
Matching Your Innate Skills to the Task at Hand
We all have certain innate skills that result from our world-view or perspective, and when we match them to our tasks, we have greater resources to work with. Here are a few examples of world-views and how they can offer you the tools you need:Do you find that you are somewhat obsessive about things being done right? Does this go along with a sense of ethical righteousness that irks you when others don’t pull their weight? This world-view goes hand-in-hand with an uncanny ability to organize information. Do you see how this could be the best resource to bring to certain tasks?
Do you care deeply about others being taken care of, or achieving their potential? Does this go along with a sense of being able to empathically read their needs? Do you see how Nordstrom’s and Mary Kay used this attribute to achieve success?
Are you competitive, goal-oriented, linear, people-oriented, and busy? Does this go along with a sense of impatience, drive, and wanting to look good? Do you see how these traits worked for Anthony Robbins and Oprah?
How about those of you who can always see how something won’t work? You test, you challenge, you question everything. Do you see how problem-solving or safety issues could benefit from your inherent skills and how you perceive the world around you?
Being yourself and using your own inherent skills will always take you further than copying someone else’s way. Plus, when you do succeed, you’ll know it was really you who did it!
Understanding the nuances of these types and the amazing applications that are yours for the taking was the basis for Optimized Results creating nine different coaching programs. Each type or worldview needs their own approach to achieving their own best results. You need the key to your own Treasure Trove; the Treasure Trove Within.