Using Diplomatic Language
Conscious Communication: bringing communication up from "auto-pilot" and reactive, to thoughtful, responsive, and above all, intentional.
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Using Diplomatic Language
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Manipulation or Facilitation
A number of clients
over the years have expressed some discomfort with their newfound skills
in communication, even asking questions about ethics. These
questions are familiar to those who’ve studied Neuro-Linguistic
Programming (NLP) or Hypnotherapy. Being able to move someone with
communication; whether that’s moving them in their “position,” or moving
them emotionally, is quite powerful. When we’re moved by a poem, we
rarely think of that as being manipulated, even though in the strictest
definition that’s exactly what happened. In fact, depending upon your
source, the negative connotations that the word carries can be a second
or third definition.
Do No Harm
When I use the term
Diplomatic Language, I’m really talking about non-incendiary language,
non-judgmental language, and open to possibilities language. This can be
as simple as asking a question in place of making an assumptive
statement (always a smart choice). Another place where we can easily
access diplomatic language is when we put ourselves in the other
person’s position. How would we want to be spoken to, treated, or
listened to? What a simple thing to apply?!
In debate, one of the
ways to prepare is to take on the opponent’s position, and then develop
the best arguments you can from that position. We get plenty of practice
espousing our own opinions, and in many cases don’t think more of a
differing one than “they’re wrong.” Researching and trying to prove
their point can be incredibly enlightening.
Sometimes this will offer us new information relevant to our previous stance. Sometimes it will offer us an understanding of the other person’s perspective. In no circumstance will it hurt our ability to communicate more intelligently about the subject matter. In every circumstance it will enhance our ability to take the high road, and find the more diplomatic solution that will serve everyone better and long-term.
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